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Friday, July 4, 2008


I have been thinking about stability lately.
And this reminds me of one of the pillars that keeps and has kept great organizations intact, relevant, strong, untouched by time. The book I read was about the Benedictine order and its rule. Time and time again, the book stressed on stability and how the organization maintains that stability, how the monks living by the rule of Benedict promotes and guarantees stability within the order.
This bring me on to the question on what friendship and marriage is. Why the church stress on marriage and in fact elevates marriage to the honour of the altar, to call marriage a sacrament. And how we hope that friendships last, that friendships are true, that we be able to trust the people around us that we call friends. I realised that we mortals, each and everyone of us expect the best out of others. We expect others to be a true friend to us. But do we become the friend we want others to be?
The church teaches that marriage is instituted by God and promotes marriage between one man and one women. The church also teaches that marriage constitutes of one man and one women as it is dictated by the laws of nature. In addition to that, the church believes that marriage is indisoluable, therefore divorce is not permitable. I believe that the reason behind this, be it marriage comes from God or not, is that the institution, provides stability.
I believe that friendship provides, to a certain extent, stability.
The book that I read, the example given was the marine and the military. And the training they undergo is vigorous and the only thing that they can count on is on one another. The phrase 'never leave a man behind' should bring a ringing in your head right now. Anyway, it is this dependence that provides stability.
However, in this modern world, the importance of marriage has been disregarded. The government found a way to do away with marriage, thus introducing divorce. Friendship has not much value as more and more people are "self reliant" and friendship only comes in after self importance.
I don't think I believe in the stability marriage provides anymore. I don't think friendships are built to last. And for this reason, I think, my desire is NOT marriage. I don't look forward to it. My family, my ENTIRE CATHOLIC family, knows the possibility of me not getting married. But they don't know the reason behind it. They still think that I might join the priesthood. I dont know, maybe I wont, maybe I will but at this moment in time, my stand is that I wont marry and will not join the priesthood, because marriage does not, in my opinion provide the stability that I want while the priesthood is not my vocation.
Disclaimer: no one was hurt during the composition of this thought. This composition is in no way an endorsement of a lifestyle, not the official teachings of the Roman Catholic faith, and free from any political, religious, scientific point of view. I left out few thoughts here so that I do not offend, be biased, or present any religious or political point of view that would jeopardize myself as a Roman Catholic,Christian.


Anonymous said...

aww. i like this post :)