LOVE HER- love the verb

I was reading 7 Habits of Highly Effective People and I stumbled upon this conversation between Stephen and a guy ... something I like very much.

Look at my marriage. I'm really worried. My wife and I don't have the same feelings for each other we used to have. I guess I just don't love her anymore and she doesn't love me. What can I do?

"The feeling isn' t there anymore?" I asked.

"That's right," he affirmed. "And we have three children we're really concerned about. What do you suggest?"

"LOVE HER," I replied.

"I told you, the feeling just isn't there anymore."

"LOVE HER."

"You don't understand. The feeling isn't there."

"Then love her. If the feeling isn't there, that's a good reason to love her."

"But how do you love when you don't love?"

"My friend, love is a verb. Love- the feeling- is a fruit of love, the verb. So love her. Serve her. Sacrifice. Listen to her. Empathize. Appreciate. Affirm her. Are you willing to do that?"

This is true. Many people are only concerned about the feeling of love that they forgot about the person and also what it means to love. This is not only true for husband and wives, this is true for all relationships, with friends and family.

I would like to dedicate this post to my god-sibling, and friends ;p and my future wife ...lolx

~xoxo~
ShAuNnY BoY:P ~

phrases

Some nice phrases of motivation^^

~xoxo~
ShAuNnY BoY:P ~

michael jackson & yoga issue

First things first, Michael Jackson is said to have been converted to Islam???
If it is true, and that he has found peace within his heart that he can better serve God in Islam, then good for him. However, he should beware that at the end of time, Our Lord Jesus Christ might renounce him because he has first renounced Jesus as Lord and Saviour.
However we should continue to pray for this APOSTATE of Christianity that he will someday repent and once again bear witness to our Lord's ultimate sacrifice for all men.


Secondly, Muslims are not allowed to practise yoga because it can erode ones' faith ?? OMG!!! How shallow can one be?? Faith in God comes from within...God grants us help to have faith in Him... and what counts is our bearing witness to divine truth. By reading something or doing something does not at all erodes ones faith in the One True God. It is sooooo shallow minded of the Islamic authorities to ban Muslims from reading the bible because reading it would erode ones faith. If thats the case, the Muslims do not at all have faith and what they are trying to imply is that Christianity is better. I do not say one religion is better than the other because every religion has its own tenets and principals that has GOODNESS as its foundation. And in this case, how does practising yoga, an exercise, erode ones faith???
What anyone could and should do is just not chant the mantra, or replace the mantra with religious pharases from our own religion!!! No Abrahamic religion (Judaism, Christianity, Islam)
can chant out religious praises to other gods... that is a fact; because all bear witness that there is only ONE TRUE GOD. So replace those 'mantras'. I don't see the harm of yoga if it helps keep my body strong and healthy.


~xoxo~
ShAuNnY BoY:P ~

gospel_luke 20:27-40

Luke 20:27-40

Some Sadducees-those who say that there is no ressurection- approached Jesus and they put this question to him, "Master, we have it from Moses in writing, that if a man's married brother dies childless, a man must marry the widow to raise up children for his brother. Well then, there are seven brothers. The first, having married a wife, died childless. The second and then the third married the widow. And the same with all seven, they died leaving no children. Finally the women herself died. Now, at the ressurection, to which of them will she be wife since she had been married to all seven?"
Jesus replied, "The children of this world take wives and husbands, but those who are judged worthy of a place in the other world and in the resurrection from the dead do not marry because they can no longer die, for they are the same as the angles, and being the children of the resurrection they are sons of God. And Moses himself implies the dead rise again, in the passage about the bush where he calls the Lord the God of Abraham, the God of Isaac and the God of Jacob. Now he is God, not of the dead, but of the living; for to him all men are in fact alive"
Some scribes the spoke up. "Well put, Master" they said -because they would not dare to ask him any more questions.

This is the Gospel of the Lord.

Now here, the gospel speaks about the resurrection. The Sadducees, one of the 'elite' group of the Jewish people did not believe in the resurrection of the body. But here, Jesus, the Son of the living God confirms and testifies that there is life after death, and the reality of Judgement Day when he boldly says "those who are judged worthy of a place in the other world". Christ Jesus also talks about eternal life when he said "they can no longer die".
What is it in for us? What is the passage telling us?
Apart from the above, this passage also reminds us that life after death is nothing like life here on earth, where people marry and try to reproduce. It also tells us that in Heaven, the flawed human laws that govern this earth do not apply. Saints, like you and me, do not get married back in our TRUE HOME. By nature, we will be spirit like the angles and we are all children of the resurrection, sons of the LIVING God.
Remember, all of us are called to be Saints. And Saints aren't perfect human beings too... they are just like you and me :)

~xoxo~
ShAuNnY BoY:P ~

"datuk" for shah rukh khan ???&^^%$#$

SHAME !!@##@$%*&)

Malacca once again faces shame as "Datuk" Shah Rukh Khan can't come
booooooohhoooohhooooo !!!!

MALACCA: Bollywood star Shah Rukh Khan will not be able to receive his Datukship on Nov 29 due to his busy schedule.

It is learnt that state officials here are now trying to arrange for an alternative date.

Shah Rukh Khan

Chief Minister Datuk Seri Mohd Ali Rustam said he had got wind of it but refused to comment further on the matter.

“I understand it has been postponed. For any details, you will have to ask the State Secretary,” he told reporters after chairing the state executive council meeting yesterday.

Shah Rukh Khan was among 77 people conferred the Darjah Mulia Seri Melaka (DMSM) which carries the title Datuk in conjunction with the 70th birthday of Yang di-Pertua Negri Tun Mohd Khalil Yaakob last month.

The award drew mixed reaction from the public, including several NGOs.

The idea to confer the award on the actor was mooted by former Finance Minister Tun Daim Zainuddin with the Chief Minister defending the move.

State Secretary Datuk Wira Omar Kaseh, who was appointed to make arrangements for the actor’s visit here, could not be reached for comment.

this is very rude of him...
this international star has turned down coming for this award only shows that this award is not important to him...
despite many criticism by the people of malacca, the state insists on confering the
"Datukship"

this is an except of what Lim Kit Siang, an opposition politicians has said to the press

“The postponement of the award shows just how ridiculous it is to give such an award to Shah Rukh as Malaysia and the award most probably does not even picture on his radar,” opposition politician Lim Kit Siang told AFP.

~xoxo~
ShAuNnY BoY:P ~

malacca bloggers

ATTENTION MALACCA BLOGGERS!!@#@

1. go to http://malaccabloggers.blogspot.com/
2. leave ur link there
3. and wait, ur link will be added shortly

WHY ???

we want to gather all "anak watan" Negeri Melaka ^^

so go there QUICK!!!!

TAGGED BY MARTIN

Starting time : 1.44 a.m.

Name : Shaun D. F.

Sisters : none

Brothers : One - Mark
Two - Vincent? :P

Shoe size : 10

Height : dunno for sure~dun care

Where do you live : X.H. , PJ

Have you ever...Been on a plane : NOPEZ!!!

Swam in the ocean : i did... way back when i was younger..

Fallen asleep at school : Hell yes!!!! many times

Broken someone’s heart : I did

Fell off your chair : hmm .. i dun recall

Sat by the phone all night waiting for someone to call : nopez...hoping yea

Saved e-mails : yea

What is your room like : 4 walls as a boundary ??

What’s right beside you: queen sized bed..:P

What is the last thing you ate : ice cream after dinner :P

Chicken pox : suprisingly... NOT YET.. im so dead

Sore throat : many times ...i wonder which idiot keeps track of when he/she gets a sore throat

Stitches : nopez.. still intact

Broken nose : refer to above ans

Do you believe in love at first sight :dunno,dun think so.bt 1st impressions are important though

Like picnics : cant even remember the last time i had one

Who is the person...You last danced with : my cousin's wife at my godsister's wedding dinner..
before that was at the senior citizen's dinner

wonder who went last...????

Who last made you smile : errr...does thoughts count? oh wait... it was my cousins babe! ...lolz

You last yelled at : dun remember.. i think family

Today did you…Talk to someone you like : my cousins baby?? who is still small and cant talk yt

Kiss anyone : nopez

Get sick : no thx

Talk to an ex : naah

Miss someone : ~

Who do you really hate: A$$#ol3 politicians

Do you like your hand-writing : ok ok .. sumtimes but still envy ppl's

Are your toe nails painted : nopez..it is as it came to be

Whose bed other than yours would you rather sleep in: errrr ~

What color shirt are you wearing now : light green

Are you a friendly person : i think i am...however there always is a BUT

Do you have any pets : not any more

Do you sleep with the TV on : loooong time ago, yes

What are you doing right now : doing this survey, was blogging before this

Can you handle the truth : sometimes, sometimes not...

Are you closer to your mother or father : Mom

Do you eat healthy : define healthy...lolz

Do you still have pictures of you & your ex : errrr~

If you’re having a bad day, who are you most likely to go to : it depends on situations

Are you loud or quiet most of the time : depends

Are you confident : most of the time... no, BUT ...lolz

5 things I was doing 10 years ago:- schooling, homework, sleeping, slacking, watching tv, playing hide and seek, police and thief, dog and the bone, ice cream stick, ice cream soda, hantu galah, badminton, and many more...lolz

5things I would do if I were a billionaire:- whoaaa... Billionaire ar.. house,car, travel,donate,invest

5 of my bad habits:- lazy, sleep,watch tv & online all the time, think to much?

places I’ve lived:- Ujong Pasir.. few houses,bandar hilir,malim jaya,7th Residential College-Zaba, x.h. pj

5 People I am tagging: nicholas thong, chun yian, adrian lim, sarahlynn, kyron

~xoxo~
ShAuNnY BoY:P ~

"afterparty" ?? naah - outing la

my drinks~the coffee and the guava+nata

So yesterday was my last paper...
the 17th of Nov that is ...

ok ... for starters... happenings in my week

my granduncle rested in peace... gone Home to see God..
and basically exams ....
then "afterparty"

ok...DETAILS~ now for my last day of exam

i stayed over at 9th college to study with my coursemate before my last paper.
then sat for exams... i didnt do that well as expected for that paper... hmmm
but at last, it ended!!!
quotes from Moira Lim -the walking calculator

"MERDEKA"

anyways, had lunch date with my coursemates after exams at Mc D's at The Curve
took a wrong turn while going there as we went to kelana jaya first to send another coursemate home first.. not my fault...lolz .. i was only following a friend of mine from behind
so yea.. happy thoughts... hahaha

first time

• driving to The Curve
• spending time with alot of coursemates.... outside UM
• "celebrating" Ashwin's bday on the last day of exam
• having so many coursemates sitting in my car...lolz
• went to sing k at red box ... and with them ...lolz
• drove home alone
• met some stranger on my way back at Seremban R&R
• spoke and exchanged ideas and great convo ... and was recommended to read a book entitled "catch the frog" ...
• saw alot of Thai Buddist letting go of the floating prayer thingy into PJ park and some ppl dancing to some music of some sort... :)

siew wei and i @ The Curve

ok...i cant remember ady .. lolz ...but i dunno... im jus trying, trying to see the little little things that are great that gives meaning to live

From left : Justin, Ashwin (bday boy) me and Chee Hoe -all coursemates...

EHHH : 2 more person missing... Ding Sze and Ka Chun

~xoxo~
ShAuNnY BoY:P ~

died in the exam hall + updatez

TICK TOCK TICK TOCK







OMG..I DIED IN MY EXAM HALL

at the START of it ... (3p.m. yesterday)

my 7th paper ...
2nd of the day...


die lar.. fail ady... pointer drop kau kau d ... shit lar ...
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went to zzzz until this morning ...
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i guess thats my sleeping mechanism ...


i remember when i was at HUC (HELP University College) studying Psychology, my lecturer .. i forgot what's her name.. haha... anyways, she said humans have our own mechanism to overcome such stress and failures..
i guess mine is sleep. some may eat more and stuff like that

(MARTIN STOP TOUCHING NICE NICE FOOD!!! ) hehe ...

but i do wonder, sleeping is not a good mechanism also... coz i think lar ... i think that the stress just keeps accumulating up in me .. like a pressure cooker or a walking time bomb...
and one day.. just one fine day...

BOOOOOOOMMMM!!!!!!!!!!!!

arrr...such calming color to describe my overstress-ness... haha

quick review of my past week

1. USA election was held on 4th Nov which also happened to fall on my cousins birthday and his nephews 1 year old birthday ^^
2. also happened to be my exam day ... errr... oh my 2nd day of exam.. 3rd nov was my first paper
3. err... OBAMA WON!!! hmm... am i happy about it actually?? i dunno...haha .. i just am happy that i lived to see that there's a black president
4. RPK FREED FROM I.S.A!!!!!
5. and yesterday... i died in my exam hall ? so sad

i think thats about it .. maybe got some more but i dun remember ... but i dont think so lar.

exam period where got interesting right ??

RPK FREED!!!!!!

HOORAY FOR JUSTICE!!!!

**victory dance**

OBAMA new "pressy" of USA ~news

COnGr@T$ Ob@MA !!!!

BREAKING NEWS
By Alex Johnson
Reporter
msnbc.com
updated 11:14 p.m. ET Nov. 4, 2008

Barack Obama, a 47-year-old first-term senator from Illinois, shattered more than 200 years of history Tuesday night by winning election as the first African-American president in the history of the United States, according to projections by NBC News.
Obama reached the 270 electoral votes he needed for election at 11 p.m. ET, when NBC News projected that he would win California, Washington and Oregon. The Associated Press reported shortly after 11 p.m. that Obama’s opponent, Republican Sen. John McCain of Arizona, had called Obama to offer his congratulations.
Campaigning as a technocratic agent of change in Washington pathbreaking civil rights figure, Obama swept to victory over McCain , whose running mate, Alaska Gov. Sarah Palin, was seeking to become the nation’s first female vice president.

A crowd nearing 100,000 people gathered in Grant Park in Chicago, awaiting an address by Obama. Hundreds of thousands more — Mayor Richard Daley said he would not be surprised if a million Chicagoans jammed the streets — were watching on a large television screen outside the park.
Surveys of voters as they left polling places nationwide indicated the breadth of the victory by Obama, the son of a Kenyan father and a white American mother. As expected, he won overwhelmingly among African-American voters, but he also won a slim majority of white voters. He won among women and Latino voters, reversing a longstanding Republican trend. And he won by more than 2-to-1 among voters of all races 30 years old and younger.
That dynamic was telling in Ohio, which President Bush won in 2004, and in Pennsylvania, where McCain poured in millions of dollars of scarce resources. Obama won both.
Obama also took Massachusetts, Michigan, New Jersey and New York, all states with hefty electoral vote hauls, NBC News projected. He also won Virginia, reversing 40 years of Republican victories there.
McCain countered with Texas and numerous smaller states, primarily in the South and the Great Plains.
In interviews with NBC News, aides to McCain said they were proud that they had put up a good fight in “historically difficult times.”
A senior adviser said McCain himself was “fine” but that he felt “he let his staff and supporters down.”
Obama will have a strongly Democratic Congress on the other end of Capitol Hill. The Democrats won strong majorities in both the House and the Senate. NBC News projected that the party would fall just short of a procedurally important 60 percent “supermajority” in the Senate, however.
Record turnout delays key resultsIn the end, Florida, the scene of electoral chaos in recent elections, had little impact. Florida had been closely watched, but results there and in other closely contested states were delayed after record numbers of voters flocked to polling stations, energized by an election in which they would select either the nation’s first black president or its first female vice president.

Obama, who led in nearly all public opinion polls, and McCain both launched get-out-the-vote efforts that led to long lines at polling stations in a contest that Democrats were also hoping would help them expand their majorities in both houses of Congress.
Americans voted in numbers unprecedented since women were given the franchise in 1920. Secretaries of state predicted turnouts approaching 90 percent in Virginia and Colorado and 80 percent or more in big states like Ohio, California, Texas, Virginia, Missouri and Maryland.
At New Shiloh Church Ministries on Mastin Lake in Huntsville, Ala., Stephanie Lacy-Conerly brought along a chair, expecting to stay for hours.
“It’s exciting,” she said. “It’s an historical moment.”

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http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/27531033/?GT1=43001